What is the most important thing in achieving your life goals? I’ve heard people say hard work, dedication, blood, sweat, tears, good luck, and many other things. Opportunity, is definitely key in achieving your goals. I believe that it starts before then. It takes one thing. It takes belief.
The belief can come from many sources. It can be a parent, a friend, a partner, a coworker, or sometimes, just yourself. Just as this belief can positively influence your ability to achieve goals, so can disbelief. Those around you, or yourself even, can be your most difficult stumbling block in getting where you want to be.
When I was young, in high school, trying to decide which direction to take for college, career and others, I was influenced by those around me. I loved psychology, anthropology, sociology, and other similar fields. I even thought about becoming a social worker. The loudest voice of influence around me at the time, was that of disbelief.
Whenever I was excited about a new opportunity, a new field, a direction for my life to go that would influence my goals, and my choices, I heard the voice of disbelief. The weather is too cold to go to that college. You’ll never be able to get a job in that field, you can’t emotionally handle being a social worker. These are all things I heard. I made a huge, life changing mistake, and I listened.
After high school graduation, I applied to a culinary arts college, that offered a four year degree program. I was accepted, and received enough financial aid, that they paid for everything. Again the loudest voice of influence told me that I’d never be able to handle it. I did myself a huge disservice, and listened.
I never did go to college, and it was a huge regret in my life. I never furthered my education, and it is something that I feel very sensitive about. When I’m among peers, I feel insecure, as if I am not on their level, due to my lack of education. When I fill out an application, I check off high school as highest level of education. I could have gone back, I still could go back. It’s been almost twenty years since I graduated from high school, and I never went back.
If I could do one thing different, I would tell that loud voice of influence, to shut the hell up. I would. I would tell that voice that the only thing holding myself back, is myself. My doubts, my insecurities, my excuses , they would all be told to shut up. The tiny little insecure voice in my head, that whispered, maybe it could work, again and again, before finally dying out, would be magnified, and put on repeat, so it would never occur to me that accomplishing my goals were ever impossible.